Everyone in today's culture thinks that millennial's are too soft, and can't handle harsh criticism. As a millennial, I want to reach out, and explain why experiencing harshness leads to personal greatness in your career by using the movie Whiplash as an example.
Plot: Andrew Neiman (Miles Teller) is an ambitious young jazz drummer, in pursuit of rising to the top of his elite music conservatory. Terence Fletcher (J.K. Simmons), an instructor known for his terrifying teaching methods, discovers Andrew and transfers the aspiring drummer into the top jazz ensemble, forever changing the young man's life. But Andrew's passion for achieving perfection spirals into obsession, as his ruthless teacher pushes him to the brink of his ability and his sanity.
1. The Breakdown
The goal of Fletcher in this scene is to take away all self-assurance in Neiman's playing ability. Confidence is needed, but it can also stifle competence. By Fletcher lashing out Neiman puts himself in a serious rebuilding phase to enhance his performance.
2. The problem with a "good job."
The minute people accept what you have produced is the same minute when you stop producing. Also, you must let failure fuel you to NEVER get in the same position again. Finally, understand that there is no line of expectations.
3. The Breakthrough
After moments of humiliation, ridicule, and growth, Neiman finally reaches the level of drumming elite. The best moment from this scene is when Fletcher and Neiman lock eyes. You see them both smile with joy. That's what it's about, going through pain, and discomfort for that moment of satisfaction as well as approval.
So I challenge you, don't resent the harshness from your mentors, or peers. See it as an opportunity for you elevate what you produce, what seems meanness, is the purest form of care.